Changing rules of Etiquette and RSVP Protocol

RANDom thought: I miss proper etiquette and does anyone really understand the rules of RSVPing?

Etiquette: “The customary code of polite behavior in society”
RSVP: répondez s'il vous plaît; please reply (used at the end of invitations to request a response).

I am not sure proper etiquette is customary any longer. The primary etiquette behavior that is a pet peeve of mine is the art of RSVPing. There are a few more, but I will discuss those another day. 😊

I send out a fair number of requests for attendance at events, community gatherings, and meetings. I am often scrambling to get people to RSVP on time, if at all. I have even had people say, “If you send me an email, will you please text me and let me know so I can check it.” Surely, they were kidding me! And no, I will not.
It is simply the right thing to do to RSVP as requested. When one does not RSVP, not only does it cause havoc to the event planner, but it also costs them money.

Often, food must be paid at least a week before an event, so a head count is needed. I know the 10% rule of thumb regarding you may have 10% more or 10% less, so count accordingly. However, now the rule seems to be 50%!

Also, a text is not a proper RSVP unless specifically directed to do it that way. Often, I forget a text if I read it on the go. Then that person doesn’t get in the count. RSVPs are most often done in writing (stamps usually included in the invitation) or via email.

I know that plans change, which is okay (refer to the 10% rule). However, I would prefer you RSVP and have to cancel, then not to RSVP and then show up.

I could go on and on, but I think you get the point.I am starting a movement, more handwritten thank you cards, and always RSVP as requested!
Will you join me?

I will discuss this topic more on FB live at my Career Cultivators page on Wednesday at 10:15. Join me there!

Also, check out this week’s podcast for more on this subject.

Remember, as my Grandfather always said, “Take time to stop and smell the roses”!
Until we meet again, take care.